Veteran Nollywood actress and filmmaker Shan George has sparked crucial conversations about marriage preparation, emphasizing the critical importance of investigating family backgrounds before committing to matrimony. Her timely advice comes amid rising concerns about domestic violence and spousal abuse in Nigeria.
Speaking candidly with Saturday Beats, George shared deep insights into the complexities of modern marriages and the often-overlooked role of family history in relationship dynamics. “I believe in people feeling free to speak out, as long as it’s true, and not some gimmick for attention or just to smear another person’s reputation,” she stated, addressing the delicate balance between transparency and responsible disclosure.
The respected entertainment figure pointed to traditional practices that historically served as safeguards against unfortunate unions. Her advocacy for thorough background checks extends beyond superficial investigations, suggesting that potential partners should delve into family histories, genetic compatibility, and other crucial factors that could impact their future together.
George’s perspective on domestic violence revealed a nuanced understanding of the cultural dynamics at play in Nigerian households. She highlighted how traditional power structures often shield abusers from consequences, noting, “Based on our culture that generally gives a man more authority at home, many perpetrators get away with it.” This cultural context, she explained, creates additional barriers for victims seeking help or justice.
The actress shed light on the complex emotional landscape that victims navigate, acknowledging the role of love and family responsibilities in decisions about leaving abusive situations. Their spouse may have a change of mind, don’t forget that love is involved here, and children too most times, have to be considered before any action is taken by women who suffer abuse,” she explained, drawing attention to the multifaceted nature of domestic abuse cases.
Perhaps most striking in George’s commentary was her emphasis on generational patterns of behavior. She suggested that many triggers for abuse often have roots in family lineages, making it crucial for individuals to understand not just their partners, but their partners’ family histories as well. This perspective offers a preventative approach to addressing domestic violence, rather than focusing solely on intervention after abuse occurs.
Addressing the public response to recent high-profile cases of domestic violence and murder in Nigeria, George commended the increased awareness while acknowledging the complexity of such situations. She noted that the traumatic impact on all families involved – both victims and perpetrators – often influences public reaction and the perceived adequacy of response.
The actress also praised the role of public outrage in motivating law enforcement action, while recognizing the natural ebb and flow of public attention as cases move through the justice system. Such outrage usually draws the attention of the security agents, and once they are already handling the case, it’s normal for people to back down a bit,” she observed, adding that public interest typically resurges if there are concerns about the handling of cases.
Through her commentary, George has highlighted a crucial aspect of marriage preparation that often goes overlooked in modern courtship. Her emphasis on thorough background investigation represents a call for a return to more comprehensive premarital screening processes, adapted for contemporary society.
The veteran actress’s insights come at a critical time when Nigerian society grapples with increasing reports of domestic violence and marriage-related tragedies. Her advice serves as a reminder that while romance and compatibility are important, understanding the broader family context into which one is marrying can be equally crucial for long-term happiness and safety.
As conversations about domestic violence and marriage continue to evolve in Nigeria, George’s perspective offers a practical approach to prevention that combines traditional wisdom with modern awareness. Her call for thorough investigation before marriage presents a potential pathway to reducing the incidence of domestic violence and creating stronger, healthier marriages in Nigerian society.
