Gospel sensation Tope Alabi’s daughter Ayomikun has ignited social media conversations with a pointed message seemingly directed at her biological father, Mayegun Olaoye, who was conspicuously absent from her recent wedding celebration.
The private ceremony, which drew attention for its lavish setting and high-profile guests including Nollywood star Funke Akindele, featured a touching moment when Soji Alabi, Tope’s current husband who raised Ayomikun, proudly walked her down the aisle. This traditional father-daughter moment has apparently triggered a wave of reactions from her biological father.
According to sources close to the situation, Olaoye reportedly expressed frustration on social media platforms about being excluded from the wedding festivities and his daughter’s life milestone. The public spectacle prompted Ayomikun to respond in a now-deleted Instagram story that has captured widespread attention.
Me, I’m not Ada Omo Daddy sha. To God be the glory,” wrote Ayomikun, referencing a popular Nollywood film produced by Mercy Aigbe that portrays a young woman reconciling with her estranged father. The cultural reference carries significant weight in Nigerian society, where family relationships and reconciliation narratives form a cornerstone of popular entertainment.
For those unfamiliar with the referenced film, “Ada Omo Daddy” tells the story of a daughter who welcomes her long-absent father back into her life despite years of neglect—a scenario Ayomikun appears unwilling to replicate in her real-life family dynamics.
The subtle yet pointed message offers a rare glimpse into the private family matters of one of Nigeria’s most beloved gospel artists. Tope Alabi, known for her soul-stirring worship songs and powerful performances, has largely kept her family life separate from her public persona, making this public family tension particularly noteworthy.
Family dynamics experts note that wedding ceremonies often bring unresolved family tensions to the surface, especially in cases involving blended families or absent parents. Dr. Foluke Adeyemi, a family therapist based in Lagos, explains: “Wedding days represent not just a union between two people but often serve as public declarations of family bonds and relationships. The decision about who walks a bride down the aisle carries tremendous symbolic weight about who she recognizes as her true father figure.”
This sentiment seems reflected in the outpouring of support Ayomikun received following her post. Comments from followers demonstrated strong backing for her position, with many praising her decisiveness and boundary-setting.
“Ora for ora. Abi how una dey talk am?” wrote one supporter named Mary Bakes, employing Nigerian slang that roughly translates to getting what one deserves. Another supporter, Hair Majesty, offered encouragement: “He go sweet for you, my darling, and your marriage will also be sweet.
The comments section transformed into a virtual support community, with users like Paris_fpwl declaring, “The daughterhood, sisterhood and motherhood are proud of you. No mind that yeye Ada Omo Daddy.” This community response highlights evolving attitudes about parental responsibilities and children’s autonomy in maintaining or severing relationships with absent parents.
Several commenters specifically referenced generational differences in handling family conflicts. “I keep saying the Gen Z Promax is going to do the worst. If you like no dey present for kids,” warned Qclothierunik_luxury, suggesting that younger generations are increasingly willing to cut ties with parents who failed to fulfill their responsibilities. Adannaya1 echoed this sentiment with, “Gen Z will bend your eras ehn oh Chim.
The situation touches on deeper cultural conversations about fatherhood, responsibility, and the conditions under which reconciliation should occur. Traditional Nigerian values often emphasize family unity and forgiveness, but younger generations appear increasingly willing to prioritize emotional well-being over familial obligations when relationships have been damaged by neglect or absence.
Mamarrazzii’s comment captured this evolving perspective: “That’s the spirit girl! No, let anyone use emotional blackmail to enter you.” Meanwhile, Winkandflirtashub summed up the sentiment most directly: “Yes o. Na person wey do Daddy na him go walk down the aisle.”
The controversy emerges against the backdrop of Tope Alabi’s respected status in Nigeria’s gospel music industry. Having built a career on messages of faith, forgiveness, and divine grace, the family situation presents an interesting counterpoint to the themes often explored in her music. However, supporters argue that boundaries and accountability remain compatible with the gospel values of truth and integrity.
Cultural commentators note that the situation reflects broader changes in how Nigerians view parental responsibilities. There was a time when biological connections alone guaranteed a place at milestone events regardless of past behavior,” explains cultural analyst Chika Okonkwo. “What we’re seeing now is a generation that values active parenting over mere biological connection.”
Neither Tope Alabi nor Soji Alabi has publicly commented on the situation, maintaining the privacy they’ve established around their family life despite their public careers. The gospel singer has historically focused her public communications on her ministry and music rather than personal matters.
As Ayomikun begins her married life, the public glimpse into her family dynamics has sparked important conversations about forgiveness, boundaries, and the true meaning of fatherhood. While her biological father’s claims continue to circulate online, the overwhelming public response suggests strong support for her decision to honor the man who actively fulfilled the fatherly role in her life.
For now, the newly married Ayomikun appears focused on her future rather than past family complications, having made her position clear through both her wedding day choices and subsequent social media response to criticism.
