Few figures evoke as much passion and controversy as Jose Mourinho. Known for his tactical genius, sharp wit, and occasionally fiery demeanor, Mourinho has always been a polarizing figure. But amidst the high-stakes drama and heated confrontations, there exists a lesser-known side of Mourinho—a side that reveals a touch of humor and camaraderie. This side was vividly captured in a recent anecdote shared by former Premier League referee Jon Moss.
Moss, who officiated over 11 years in the English top flight, officiated hundreds of matches, issuing 907 yellow cards, 14 red cards, and awarding 81 penalties—a remarkable statistic that underscores his reputation as a strict yet composed referee. Over his illustrious career, Moss developed a unique relationship with Mourinho, one that oscillated between respect and occasional tension. Speaking on the Row Z FC podcast, Moss described this dynamic as a “love-hate” relationship, characterized by moments of intense confrontation and unexpected camaraderie.
Moss’s officiating style was marked by a firm adherence to the rules, a trait that often placed him at odds with players and managers alike. Among his many encounters, Mourinho stood out as a particularly challenging opponent. Moss recounted sending Mourinho off three times during their encounters, a testament to the manager’s fiery temperament. Despite these instances, Moss acknowledged Mourinho’s brilliance as a manager, noting that his presence in the league added excitement and intensity to the matches.
When I look back, I always had a love-hate relationship with Jose Mourinho,” Moss reflected. “He was a fantastic manager in terms of the kind of character you want in the league—he would be challenging at times, he would be fantastic company to have. We went to the Europa League final with Anthony Taylor, and he greeted us in the car park like a long-lost brother.
One particular incident stands out as a quintessential example of Mourinho’s wit and unexpected gestures. During a post-match interview, Moss expressed his frustration with the lack of positive feedback from managers in the media. Mourinho, ever the master of improvisation, responded with a gesture that was both surprising and endearing.
“I said ‘Jose, you never say anything good about referees on the TV!’ and he said ‘Wait here!'” Moss recalled with a laugh. He runs in, one of his players is being interviewed on Sky, and he pushes him to one side and goes on the camera and says ‘I thought the referee had a great game today!’ He then walks into the dressing room and says ‘there you go, you owe me one’ and walks off!
This spontaneous act not only highlighted Mourinho’s ability to think on his feet but also showcased a rare glimpse of his playful side. It was a moment that underscored the respect Mourinho held for Moss, even in the heat of the moment.
Moss’s interactions with Mourinho were not limited to tense exchanges. There were instances where the two engaged in lively banter, each respecting the other’s professionalism and passion for the game. Moss remembered several occasions where he had to stand his ground in Mourinho’s dressing room, a testament to the respect and mutual understanding that developed over time.
“The dressing room was always a place where I had to stand my ground,” Moss admitted. “There were times when I was toe-to-toe with him, and it was important to maintain that respect and professionalism.”
While Mourinho’s Premier League days are behind him, he remains a prominent figure in European football. Currently managing Fenerbahce in Turkey’s Super Lig, Mourinho is focused on leading his team to domestic glory. However, a recent Europa League exit at the hands of Rangers has shifted the focus entirely to the domestic league. Fenerbahce sits nine points behind league leaders Galatasaray, though they have a game in hand, keeping their title hopes alive.
Despite the challenges, Mourinho’s presence continues to captivate fans and analysts alike. His ability to adapt and inspire his teams remains unparalleled, and his legacy as one of the greatest managers in football history is secure.
The relationship between Jon Moss and Jose Mourinho is a fascinating study in contrasts. It embodies the complexities of the referee-manager dynamic, where respect and tension coexist. Through anecdotes like the infamous post-match tribute, we gain a deeper appreciation for Mourinho’s multifaceted personality and the enduring bonds forged in the crucible of competitive football.
As Mourinho continues his journey in Turkey, one thing is certain: his impact on the game will always be remembered, whether through his tactical brilliance, fiery outbursts, or moments of unexpected humor. And for Moss, those memories will forever remain a cherished part of his refereeing legacy.
