Nigerian gospel singer Sola Allyson has sparked widespread conversation across social media following her candid criticism of women who habitually seek financial assistance from their romantic partners. The “Eji Owuro” hitmaker’s comments have resonated with some while drawing criticism from others in today’s challenging economic climate.
In a video that quickly went viral, Allyson shared her perspective on financial independence in relationships, drawing from personal experiences to illustrate her point. The respected vocalist recounted a past relationship with a wealthy boyfriend who consistently offered monetary support, which she routinely declined.
You start dating someone today, next tomorrow your phone has spoiled,” Allyson remarked in the video, expressing concern about what she perceives as a pattern of financial dependence developing too quickly in modern relationships.
The singer revealed her own approach to maintaining financial boundaries, explaining that even when she needed assistance, she would only accept the exact amount required. “I was once in a relationship where my boyfriend was very rich. When he wants to give me money, I won’t collect it,” she shared. On the days when I need money, if it’s N500 I need and he gives me N5000, I will remove the N500 and give him his N4500 back.”
Her comments arrive at a time when Nigeria faces significant economic pressures, including high inflation and widespread unemployment, factors that have complicated financial dynamics in relationships across the country.
Social media reaction to Allyson’s stance has been mixed, with the conversation highlighting generational differences in attitudes toward money in romantic partnerships. The comments section of the video reveals a spectrum of opinions on the matter.
One user, @Eniola___sarah, challenged the singer’s perspective, writing: “Mommy why I go Dey reject free money? Na your time be that ooo. The only thing I’m accepting with you is the one you said two days into the relationship the girl go Dey talk say her phone don spoil.
Another commenter, @Moren.dstall, referenced Nigeria’s current economic situation with the quip, “In this tpain regime, oya nao,” suggesting that financial independence may be more challenging in today’s economy than during the era when Allyson was dating.
Some users expressed solidarity with the singer’s approach. User @Rikkyflefle commented: “Fr some ladies still do this.. eg me. I no get one inch of courage to ask for money.. I have the I can do it mentality even Doug deep down I want a baby girl treatment.
The discourse surrounding Allyson’s comments reflects broader conversations about gender roles, financial independence, and relationship dynamics in contemporary Nigerian society. Financial expectations in relationships have evolved significantly over the decades, influenced by changing economic conditions, shifting cultural norms, and increased opportunities for women in the workforce.
Allyson, known for hits like “Ebe” and “Eji Owuro,” has built a reputation not just for her soulful music but also for her outspoken perspectives on social issues. Her music often explores themes of spirituality, personal growth, and cultural values, making her a respected voice beyond the entertainment industry.
Cultural observers note that her comments touch on the tension between traditional relationship models, where men were typically expected to provide financially, and more contemporary approaches emphasizing equal partnership and mutual independence.
The controversy also highlights how social media has transformed public discourse around relationship norms, allowing for rapid, widespread debate across geographic and demographic boundaries. What might once have been a personal perspective shared among friends can now trigger nationwide conversation within hours.
Financial therapist Adewale Johnson, who specializes in how money affects relationships, offers context: “What we’re seeing is a clash between different relationship models. Some still operate on provider-dependent dynamics, while others strive for financial equality. Neither is inherently wrong, but transparency about expectations is crucial for relationship success.”
For younger Nigerians navigating relationships in a challenging economy, these conversations have particular relevance. Graduate unemployment rates and housing costs have made financial independence more difficult to achieve for many young adults, potentially affecting how they approach money matters in relationships.
As one commenter, @Proudafricanman, suggested: “The generation she’s talking about died in 2000,” highlighting the perception that economic realities have shifted dramatically since Allyson’s dating years.
Another perspective came from @Niniolajadesola12, who commented: “Mam na those type of women who don’t ask for anything men take for granted this days,” suggesting that financial independence doesn’t always yield the respect or treatment it might deserve.
As the conversation continues to unfold, Allyson’s comments have succeeded in prompting Nigerians to examine their own attitudes toward money in romantic relationships, regardless of whether they agree with her stance. The gospel singer has yet to respond to the viral reaction to her video, but her words have clearly struck a chord in Nigeria’s ongoing dialogue about evolving relationship norms.
