Former Big Brother Naija contestant Kiddwaya has ignited a spirited online discussion after posing a provocative question about wealth, fame, and romantic relationships on social media platform X (formerly Twitter). The reality TV star, known for his affluent background as son of billionaire businessman Terry Waya, questioned why financial status appears to determine the quality of romantic partners one attracts.
“I have a genuine question,” Kiddwaya wrote. Why is it that when you are rich and famous, you attract bad girls, ‘baddies’, but when you are broke and normal, you attract good long-term girls?
The question, which touches on common stereotypes about relationships and socioeconomic status, quickly garnered attention from his followers and beyond, generating numerous responses that ranged from humorous to critical and reflective.
Many respondents challenged the premise of Kiddwaya’s question, suggesting that the issue might lie with his own preferences rather than an inherent correlation between wealth and partner quality. User Symply_Barbz directly confronted this perspective, writing: “Na you dey chase baddies, no be say you no see good girls so the blame is on you.
This sentiment was echoed by several others, including Simplicious_23, who commented: “Na baddie dey enter your eyes when you are rich don’t twist it abeg,” suggesting that wealthy individuals might selectively notice certain types of potential partners while overlooking others.
Some responses took a more philosophical approach, like Primeluxkiddies who proposed: “It’s because you’re also a baddie; you attract who you are,” suggesting that relationship dynamics reflect personal characteristics rather than merely financial circumstances.
The conversation triggered by Kiddwaya’s question intersects with broader sociological discussions about how wealth influences relationship patterns. Research in social psychology has explored how perceived financial status affects dating preferences and partner selection across different cultures and contexts. While Kiddwaya framed his question around an apparent paradox, relationship experts often note that compatibility factors extend far beyond financial considerations.
Kiddwaya rose to prominence during his participation in the fifth season of Big Brother Naija, dubbed the “Lockdown Edition,” which aired in 2020. Throughout his time on the show and afterward, his privileged background has been a defining aspect of his public persona. As the son of a well-known businessman, his perspectives on wealth and relationships carry the weight of his lived experience in Nigeria’s upper socioeconomic echelon.
Some respondents appeared frustrated by what they perceived as a lack of self-awareness in Kiddwaya’s question. User Alphizzle dismissed it as “an unintelligent question to ask,” while others offered tongue-in-cheek solutions, such as Rukevwe_offegha who suggested: “Get broke and normal, then,” implying that if the correlation Kiddwaya suggests exists, the solution would be straightforward.
Several commenters pointed toward selection bias in how wealthy individuals might evaluate potential partners. Luckyfinds.ng observed: “Maybe you have the things that baddies need most – money and fame,” suggesting that certain personality types might be more likely to actively pursue relationships with wealthy individuals, creating an illusion about who is “attracted” to whom.
The discussion touches on complex dynamics in contemporary Nigerian dating culture, where conspicuous consumption and displays of wealth on social media have influenced relationship expectations. Young Nigerians navigate a social landscape where financial status often intersects with relationship desirability in ways that can create tension between authentic connections and materially motivated partnerships.
Kiddwaya’s question also inadvertently highlights gendered aspects of relationship discourse by categorizing women as either “baddies” or “good long-term girls,” a dichotomy that many social commentators find problematic for reducing women’s identities to how they relate to men’s wealth or status.
Cultural critics note that the “baddie” aesthetic—characterized by high-maintenance appearance, fashion consciousness, and social media savvy—has become intertwined with assumptions about values and relationship priorities. This association creates a simplistic narrative about personal character based on external presentation.
Since his Big Brother Naija appearance, Kiddwaya has maintained a public image connected to luxury lifestyles, occasionally sharing glimpses of his privileged life through social media. His dating history has also received public attention, particularly his connection with fellow Big Brother Naija contestant Erica Nlewedim, which attracted significant fan interest during and after the show.
The comments on Kiddwaya’s post reflect broader societal tensions about how wealth influences interpersonal relationships in Nigeria’s increasingly stratified society. As economic inequality grows, perceptions about who dates whom and for what reasons often become charged topics that intersect with class anxieties.
Some responses suggested practical solutions, with Tdsglamhairsalon advising: “Na you never search the right place,” implying that meeting potential partners in different contexts might yield different results regardless of wealth status.
While Kiddwaya’s question may have been posed with genuine curiosity, the responses demonstrate how discussions about dating preferences quickly expand into considerations of authenticity, judgment, and socioeconomic dynamics. The thread reveals how personal relationship challenges can reflect wider social patterns and biases.
As Nigerian youth continue navigating the complex intersection of traditional values and contemporary dating culture, questions like Kiddwaya’s highlight the ongoing negotiation between material considerations and emotional authenticity in relationship formation.
Whether Kiddwaya finds his answer satisfactory remains to be seen, but the conversation his question generated offers a window into how young Nigerians are thinking critically about the relationship between wealth, attraction, and genuine connection in an increasingly status-conscious society.
